Can You Believe It?

Here I am, raw and unfiltered: I need to tell you something.

I am filled with so much love and joy right now that it’s exploding out of me. I can’t help but look at how far I have come, and how much work and sacrifice I put into building a life that makes my souls sing.

I have so much passion for sharing this joy that often I become overwhelmed with finding the words to share. I am a holistic therapist, it is my job to make the intangible truths not just understandable but practical. I am here to lovingly push people forward into their most empowered selves.

Yet, I know that many of my personal practices seem trivial when there are people struggling to buy food, facing addictions and mental health concerns every day.

Who am I to say anything about abundance when I sit in a seat of privilege.

Sure I have seen my dose of struggle. I’ve been abused, controlled, pushed down literally and figuratively, I’ve been in jail and on psych meds. These experiences don’t define me, but they do empower me.

I refuse to be a victim to anything or anyone. I am my own master, and so I choose the path of least resistance. Don’t misunderstand, there is much battle to be faught in the quest for person power. There is a cost, but with great sacrifice comes great reward.

What greater treasure is there in this life but the unveiling of our true soul. I firmly believe that you, YOU, are stronger than you think and braver than you believe! Stay strong, ask for help, and never give up!

I can’t help everyone, but I can stay strong and continue to grow every day, I can help those around me, I can set an example and I can make a difference.

One of the biggest lessons I learned in the past year is patience and consistency. Whatever it is in your life that you want to change, stay on the course. Results can sometimes take time; growth sometimes feels like failure. Remember that everything is a gift to help you learn and grow.

I know this because somehow even when I didn’t want to live anymore I kept going.

Repeat this mantra throughout the day: I believe in myself.

Why So Much Hate?

I see so much man hate in the queer community. People who claim to be enlightened and psychic verbally attack and assume other people’s gender.

So sorry if a man ever hurt you.

So sorry if a woman ever hurt you.

We are all hurt in some way by the patterns of the past. Racism, sexism, classism and on and on have all hurt us. Misogyny has hurt men and women and people all across the binary spectrum.

The truth is that we all possess an equal balance of male and female. Accepting this about oneself opens up a world where we can accept others.

Me and my partner have been on the receiving end of people judging and assuming because we “look” like a straight cis couple we must be, but we aren’t! Being categorized like this is justification for certain people to throw anger and cruelty toward us. Projecting a life time of story into us when perhaps none of it is true.

I understand why people are angry, but fighting with people who are on your side because you decided to misgender is pretty sad, ignorant, and rude. Just like it would be mean of me to judge someone for looking queer it is also mean to judge someone for looking straight. We are all a human family. Try not to lump a huge group of people together just so you can hate them.

Four Element Clearing

When I feel the need to reset I like to remember the four main elements as a way to check in with myself and find my center. This technique can be used by anyone at any time. Especially powerful times are during bleeding or a life shift.

Take four days and focus each day on the elements: one at a time. This practice uses the traditional four as the elements, feel free to incorporate other elements if you wish. Day one the focus is on fire, day two air, day three water, ending on day four with a focus on earth. Another option is to do one of each at any time for a quick balancing.

On each day begin in prayer focusing on the element of the day. Let everything you do drip with love. Choose which practices from the days element you wish you use.

Fire

  • Cook over fire
  • Light candle
  • Burn sage
  • Smoke herbs
  • Burn written intentions

Air

  • Self Reiki
  • Rapé ceremony
  • Draw with charcoal
  • Pranayama
  • Dance

Water

  • Bathe
  • Meditate with shell
  • Make fresh juice
  • Pray at natural waters
  • Collect rainwater and anoint chakras

Earth

  • Meditate with crystals
  • Mud/clay/chocolate face mask
  • Hug a tree
  • Lay on the ground
  • Plant seeds
  • Cut hair

What you sow you will reap. The power of your intentions will be supported by this ritual, so be sure to have strong intentions, a flowing heart, and meditative mind as you move through your practice.

Comment below if you have any other suggestions for elemental clearing.

Healing Secret Pain

“Are you sure it’s a good idea to have it on Facebook?”

My mom teaches me and inspires my growth, often not in the direction she intends. I spoke with her on the phone a few days ago, she wanted to make sure that I supported the public testimony our arrest that James wrote on his blog and shared on Facebook. I assured her that not only did I support his writing but I helped edit the post. Letting out the details of our experience is one of the ways that James and I like to heal. Shining the light on the pain and trauma is likened to cleaning a wound, and sharing what happened in a public format is a powerful way to remove shame around what happened. I choose to set myself free from any victim mentality that was assigned to me when I was mistreated. I know who I am and I know that I am much greater than this experience, by letting go of the story I no longer define myself by it.

There are many secrets in my family, some that I just found out this year, some that I hold inside because it’s not my secret to share, and surely there are many secrets that I do not know about. I like to do things differently than generations past. I like to tell all my secrets and set them free. I believe that hiding my pain only causes me more pain, I would rather air out my wounds and disappoint a few people than kill myself slowly with the internal burden of secret pain. When I told my dad about abuse I experienced as a child he cautioned me to be careful who I tell, I assured him I would tell anyone I want. I refuse to hide in the shadows of my trauma.

Shame is such a controlling force if we let it sink too deep into our psyche. I have found immeasurable freedom in refusing to be ashamed of anything. I am proud of who I am, proud of how powerfully I have moved through very challenging situations with strength and grace (and sometimes as a hot mess and then back to grace). It is my goal to continually become more polished in my ability to process testing experiences and in the process I have inspired others with my courage, a result I did not set out to achieve but a massive perk in doing the self work.

Growth requires change. I am not a Twinkie that will remain the same for a hundred years, I am a living, breathing, actively changing and growing human person. This might seem trivially elementary to some but to others who tell me “you’ve changed” I say “yes, I am so glad that I have.”

On Obligations & Selfishness

I try not to do anything out of obligation. I think that sometimes this can be taken the wrong way, because I see a lot of people doing things out of obligation, so not participating can make one stand out. Most of the time I am okay with this. 

The whole motivation behind staying away from obligatory acts is it holds my time and attention at maximum sacred. My heart, mind and soul want to be fully invested in everything I do, and keeping my needs and desires at top priority is how I achieve satisfaction. 

You see, I believe that we are all complete beings. This means that I trust the ideas that I have to be good, I am confident in my guts voice and intuition, and my self care is what heals me. Believing these to be true sets my vantage point on success. 

Now my values and habits are what make up who I am, and as I mentioned self care is essential to my healing. So when obligations come up that I can choose to abstain from, if I find that choosing what is best for me is sometimes staying away from the crowd. Sometimes the crowd does not like this. (The crowd could be anyone)

To some this may sound very selfish. Good, let’s talk about the S word. Being selfish is not inherently bad. I think that some of us have been taught that if our actions cause someone else’s feelings to be hurt, then we should not do that action. I wager though, aren’t we all responsible for our feelings? If no one is physically hurt, and choosing what is best for YOU hurts someone’s feelings, perhaps we should make ourselves a priority and let them mature into their emotions. 

You see I come from an opposite point of view. In abusive and manipulative relationships I learned that it was better for me to sacrifice my wants and needs for the sake of the other person, because if I can just keep quiet and make their needs a priority then everything will be fine. But NO, I am not fine inside when I suppress my needs. This is where learning to be selfish has changed my life. 

My life is top priority. My needs must be met. I chose to take my life into my own hands even if it hurt the feelings of another. I chose to say no to obligations because that obligation would cause me enormous stress. Even if the crowd doesn’t understand, that’s okay. I know what is best for me. ❤

How to Easily Make Money Online

Hi, so as some of you know, I love to travel. Living life on the road brings me so much happiness, but being away from a consistent jobs requires new strategies for making money. So I turned to the internet to learn about online income. I am amazed at what I found!

Did you know that you can make money while doing what you already do? I found Ebates, this website that offers up to 40% cash back on common purchases, for FREE. This means that for clicking a button, I can receive a check or PayPal deposit for hardly any effort!

Hotel rooms, flights, clothing, makeup, amazon.com, electronics, movies and more can all give you cash back if you go through Ebates. They have a long list of retailers they work with, even my pet supplies will now earn me cash.

Here is a video that explains how simple it is to get cash back through Ebates::

As you can see it is so easy and well worth signing up. Here is how:

Step 1) Join @ Ebates.com

Step 2) Click the Join Now button at the top of the page

Step 3) Enter my referral email kosmicrockstar@gmail.com 

Now you have $10 as a welcome bonus just for signing up!

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 Ebates also has a free cash back button for your computer browser and a free app so whether you are on a computer or mobile device remember to check Ebates next time you make a purchase.

I am already making money, I didn’t think it would be so simple. Here is the proof:


Thank you for reading and happy travels! 😊